The writing Roles of 'writer' and 'editor' help keep your writer in control of their writing. Dear families. Many of us have a tendency to believe that we know more than our children...and often we are right, but in the case of writing stories I can't emphasize enough the importance of NOT taking over your… Continue reading Writing: The writer stays in control.
Help your child develop the homework habit Time spent together is precious. As well as homework time to practise skills they are learning in school, children need time to play, read, chat with you and with their friends, help out in the house, and have free, unstructured time to explore and enjoy their world. Homework… Continue reading Tips for successfully helping children develop the homework habit.
It’s time to get down and decide a win-win deal together and take turns speaking and listening to each other. For negotiations to be successful create a situation where your teen will stay comfortable and alert enough to listen closely to you. The most important thing you can do is to keep any of your… Continue reading Your teen and you – No 4 – time to create a win-win deal
When it all goes wrong - severe consequences step in. Severe consequences are for when your child’s negative behaviours continue beyond acceptable limits after other consequences have been used consistently, and after two strong warnings. Severe consequences are not punishments! Some or all of these consequences happen immediately and are non-negotiable; but at no point… Continue reading Positive Discipline 5: When it all goes wrong it’s severe consequences time.
A definition of consequences I like is, ‘something that follows as a result’. We create our own consequences in our lives. An excellent example of this for yourself as a parent is the positive changes you can create in your life when you focus on what you can change rather than what is beyond your… Continue reading A positive discipline approach part 2: Fair agreements and consequences
How to be a shrewd negotiator with your teen. When agreement about homework is not easily reached, sit back and listen more closely. Deeply understand what your teen is saying and doing before you open your mouth to speak. When/if they become unhappy with the deal you are negotiating at any point... stop talking and… Continue reading Negotiating homework with your teen: Part 4 – How to still negotiate when it is hard
Stay respectful with your teen throughout the whole homework negotiation process, and never give up! Don't hurry homework negotiations. Even when feeling provoked, impatient, annoyed, attacked...stay respectful. If the atmosphere becomes tense between you both, slow down the negotiating process, but without intending it to stop. Believe that there is no hurry - that time… Continue reading Your teen and homework : Part 5 – further tips with respectful negotiation
Homework with your child can = serious fun! Some of it isn’t much fun of course but during a successful homework time together there can be wonderful shared moments of laughter, chat, triumph and pleasure. Here are some of my favourite ideas. Keep things light. When you and your child become too serious, irritated, bored… Continue reading How to make helping your child with homework more fun for both of you.
Our beliefs either help us succeed, or limit our success when helping our children do their homework. We have more control over our lives than we think. Did you know that what we think and believe has a strong influence on what we feel and on what we do? Even more extreme, did you know… Continue reading Help your child learn: Change how you think.
Persistence is key to helping your child develop the homework habit. “Even ordinary effort over time yields extraordinary results” (Keith Ellis, p. 74). The buck stops at you. In my experience it is also often the adult, the family coach (you) who forgets, doesn’t feel like it, is too tired, too busy, has a crisis… Continue reading How to help your child with their homework: New Habits take time.