I’m currently working with several young adults aged between 13 and 16. I call them young adults because they change rapidly before our eyes into just that, and we have to accept that they might want more independence, crave more privacy, and like to be shown a high level of respect, while perhaps highly critical… Continue reading Your teen and you: Developing mutual respect.
Intelligence: Does your child believe that it is fixed at birth or that it is something that can grow? Carol Dweck, a leading researcher in the field of motivation, has found that children hold either a fixed mindset or a growth mindset when they think about their own and others intelligence. Have you heard your… Continue reading How does your child perceive their own intelligence?
Goals help keep your teen steady and strong when life is difficult. Study goals are most easily achieved by taking small steps most days, not by cramming in lots of information just before exams. At this stage of their life they experience rapid growth spurts and sudden surges of hormones. There are often dramas, if… Continue reading Helping your teen study when they are non-compliant: What to look out for.
Resiliency is what we have needed to survive and thrive in the adult world. Resiliency is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, and the ability to bounce back in the face of adversity. When you look around at people you know, you may have noticed that adults who have very little resiliency often don't handle… Continue reading Building resiliency in our children
A keen proud writer Writing fluently will remain an important skill our children need to master. Your child might not be very interested in writing because they have so many other interesting things they would rather do. Many children are much more interested in doing something physical than sitting down to write. Especially when… Continue reading Writing: first understand why they dislike writing, then negotiate.
Help your child develop the homework habit Time spent together is precious. As well as homework time to practise skills they are learning in school, children need time to play, read, chat with you and with their friends, help out in the house, and have free, unstructured time to explore and enjoy their world. Homework… Continue reading Tips for successfully helping children develop the homework habit.
A few weeks ago I met a young man in his twenties who in the course of our conversation disclosed what exactly his mother had done to help him at home when he was young and having great difficulty learning to read and write. What she did gave him the opportunity to fulfill more of… Continue reading What if your child can’t read or write well….is that it?
Why reading for pleasure helps your child There is good evidence to suggest that young people who read for pleasure daily perform better in reading skills tests than those who never do. However, a recent survey carried out by the National Literacy Trust has indicated a decline in the amount of time children and young… Continue reading Help your child develop phonics skills and they learn to read for pleasure
It’s time to get down and decide a win-win deal together and take turns speaking and listening to each other. For negotiations to be successful create a situation where your teen will stay comfortable and alert enough to listen closely to you. The most important thing you can do is to keep any of your… Continue reading Your teen and you – No 4 – time to create a win-win deal
When you create a firm agreement with your teen about anything, including homework, curfews, chores, and polite behaviour, always pay attention to the small print. Take a little time and remember why you want to negotiate new behaviours with your teen. why you want things to change in your house. When you are sure that… Continue reading Your teen and you: No 3 – Pay attention to the small print