I’m currently working with several young adults aged between 13 and 16. I call them young adults because they change rapidly before our eyes into just that, and we have to accept that they might want more independence, crave more privacy, and like to be shown a high level of respect, while perhaps highly critical… Continue reading Your teen and you: Developing mutual respect.
Goals help keep your teen steady and strong when life is difficult. Study goals are most easily achieved by taking small steps most days, not by cramming in lots of information just before exams. At this stage of their life they experience rapid growth spurts and sudden surges of hormones. There are often dramas, if… Continue reading Helping your teen study when they are non-compliant: What to look out for.
Resiliency is what we have needed to survive and thrive in the adult world. Resiliency is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, and the ability to bounce back in the face of adversity. When you look around at people you know, you may have noticed that adults who have very little resiliency often don't handle… Continue reading Building resiliency in our children
It’s time to get down and decide a win-win deal together and take turns speaking and listening to each other. For negotiations to be successful create a situation where your teen will stay comfortable and alert enough to listen closely to you. The most important thing you can do is to keep any of your… Continue reading Your teen and you – No 4 – time to create a win-win deal
When you create a firm agreement with your teen about anything, including homework, curfews, chores, and polite behaviour, always pay attention to the small print. Take a little time and remember why you want to negotiate new behaviours with your teen. why you want things to change in your house. When you are sure that… Continue reading Your teen and you: No 3 – Pay attention to the small print