Helping Your Children To Be Successful Students
I’m currently working with several young adults aged between 13 and 16. I call them young adults because they are growing up rapidly, and might want more independence, crave more privacy, and like to be shown a high level of respect. Families bring their young adult to me for different reasons. Usually they are concerned… Continue reading Your teen and you: Developing mutual respect.
Goals and agreements help keep your teen steady and strong when life is difficult. Study goals are most easily achieved by taking small steps most days, not by cramming in lots of information just before exams. At this stage of their life they experience rapid growth spurts and sudden surges of hormones. There are often… Continue reading Helping your teen study when they won’t: What to look out for.
It’s time to get serious and decide a win-win deal together. Take turns speaking and listening to each other. For negotiations to be successful create a situation where your teen will stay comfortable and alert enough to listen closely to you. The most important thing you can do is to keep any of your positive… Continue reading Your teen and you – No 4 – time to create a win-win deal
When you create a firm agreement with your teen about anything, including homework, curfews, chores, and polite behaviour, always pay attention to the small print. Take a little time and remember why you want to negotiate a particular new behaviour with your teen. When you are sure that change needs to happen - it will.… Continue reading Your teen and you: No 3 – Pay attention to the small print
Create a study agreement that both you and your teen are happy with. I have some further ideas to increase your chances of success when you negotiate with your teen, about anything really, but in this case the amount of study they are doing. I talk again about the importance of listening openly and without… Continue reading Your teen and you: No 2 – Creating a win-win study agreement.
Win-win or no deal: Only agree when you are both happy. The goals you set decide your success. The more thoroughly and seriously the goals are decided between you both, the more you both will take the coaching seriously, and when the inevitable moment comes that you both find it harder to work together, you will… Continue reading First the reading, writing, and maths goals – then how you work together
If mind and body are aligned we have the force of the universe behind us. It is easier to work together when you both know where you want to go - when you can see the goal ahead of you quite clearly and the steps you need to reach it. Clear and exciting reading, writing,… Continue reading How to set reading, writing, or maths goals with your child: Create win-win deals.
Families as Coaches 