It’s time to get down and decide a win-win deal together and take turns speaking and listening to each other. For negotiations to be successful create a situation where your teen will stay comfortable and alert enough to listen closely to you. The most important thing you can do is to keep any of your… Continue reading Your teen and you – No 4 – time to create a win-win deal
When you create a firm agreement with your teen about anything, including homework, curfews, chores, and polite behaviour, always pay attention to the small print. Take a little time and remember why you want to negotiate new behaviours with your teen. why you want things to change in your house. When you are sure that… Continue reading Your teen and you: No 3 – Pay attention to the small print
Create a study agreement that both you and your teen are happy with. Following on from the last post......I have some further ideas to increase your chances of success when you negotiate with your teen, about anything really, but in this case the amount of study they are doing. I talk again about the importance… Continue reading Your teen and you: No 2 – Creating a win-win study agreement.
If you want to develop a more adult relationship with your teen, the next few posts are particularly for you. Be brave and plan to rock the family boat now. There is no better time! While you hold most of the purse strings you can create consequences that affect your teen quite easily. It becomes… Continue reading Developing a respectful relationship with your teen
When it all goes wrong - severe consequences step in. Severe consequences are for when your child’s negative behaviours continue beyond acceptable limits after other consequences have been used consistently, and after two strong warnings. Severe consequences are not punishments! Some or all of these consequences happen immediately and are non-negotiable; but at no point… Continue reading Positive Discipline 5: When it all goes wrong it’s severe consequences time.
Many family coaches waste valuable energy and coaching time because they either listen to their child too much and feel powerless and exhausted by the excessive arguments and discussion, or they are afraid of losing control of the coaching situation, so don’t listen enough and their child feels powerless. The positive discipline approach means you… Continue reading Positive Discipline 4: Clinching a fair deal
Positive Discipline: How to stay respectful and seize control. An important strength of positive discipline is that you can respond quickly and assertively and with confidence when your child behaves badly. Before the positive discipline approach you may have reacted emotionally when your child wasn’t cooperating with you, or refusing to work with you, and… Continue reading Positive Discipline part 3: First steps in seizing control respectfully
A definition of consequences I like is, ‘something that follows as a result’. We create our own consequences in our lives. An excellent example of this for yourself as a parent is the positive changes you can create in your life when you focus on what you can change rather than what is beyond your… Continue reading A positive discipline approach part 2: Fair agreements and consequences
A positive discipline approach. I believe that it is up to us as the parents to discipline our children so they can learn to discipline themselves. To do this well we need to act tough, stay respectful and remain consistent with them and I encourage you to remain respectfully tough while consistently expecting high standards… Continue reading A positive discipline approach: How to be respectfully firm with your child
Check out this blog by a mother of 9 titled 'raising children is not a default chore is inspiring. As parents living in a society with many pressures brought to bear on us to be so much more than good parents, we need all the inspiration we can gather to stay focused on remembering what… Continue reading Reading – how to help your child read well and with pleasure